Studies have found that people with low self-esteem have more relationship insecurities, which can prevent them from experiencing the benefits of a loving relationship. People with low self-esteem not only want their partner to see them in a better light than they see themselves, but in moments of self-doubt, they have trouble even recognizing their partner’s affirmations. Moreover, the very acting out of their insecurities can push their partners away, thus creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. Because this struggle is so internal and most of the time even independent of circumstances, it’s important to deal with insecurities without distorting or dragging your partner into them. This can be done by taking two steps 1. Uncovering the real roots of your insecurity and 2. Challenging the inner critic that sabotages your relationship.
CHILD ABUSE PRIMES THE BRAIN FOR FUTURE MENTAL ILLNESS
Now, in the largest study yet to use brain scans to show the effects of child abuse, researchers have found specific changes in key regions in and around the hippocampus in the brains of young adults who were maltreated or neglected in childhood. These changes may leave victims more vulnerable to depression, addiction and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), the study suggests.
Even among the most resilient survivors, the aftereffects of abuse may linger. Not only are such children at later risk for mental illness, but because of the way trauma affects the stress system, they are also more vulnerable to developing chronic diseases like diabetes, high blood pressure, heart attack and stroke.
We can do better for our kids.
SUICIDE PREVENTION MONTH
September is Suicide Prevention month. We lose nearly 1 million people worldwide to suicide every year, and it is staggering to think how drastically that number could be reduced if the stigma around depression and maintaining our mental health disappeared tomorrow. If we want that change to happen, everyone of us must make a difference!
WHY IS IT DIFFICULT FOR SOME PARENTS TO LOVE THEIR CHILDREN?
Many parents have a negative self-image which they unwittingly extend to their children. If they cannot love themselves, have developed a negative conception of themselves and their bodies, and extend this shame and negativity to their productions, they cannot pass on love and tenderness to this remarkable creation of theirs. In general, people who do not really like themselves are incapable of genuinely loving other people, especially their children. In fact, they are more likely to project their negative feelings onto others. Nowhere is there a better dumping ground for our negative perceptions of ourselves than our children.
THINGS EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
~ Domestic violence is about power and control
~ Domestic violence may entail more than physical abuse
~ No two situations are exactly alike
~ Marriage counseling may not be a good idea if there is active violence
~ People who stay in abusive relationships are not "stupid" or "weak"
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Depression doesn’t discriminate; it knows no boundaries and it can affect all walks of life at any stage - Melissa Higgins, LCSW
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TEENS NEED VIGOROUS EXERCISE
Guidelines for teenagers should stress the importance of vigorous physical activity and fitness to cut the risk of heart disease, new research suggests. Current NHS guidelines say people aged 5 to 18 should do at least 60 minutes of moderate to vigorous physical activity each day to improve their current and future health.
Moderate activity has many health benefits, but in specific terms of reducing risk factors for cardiovascular disease, it's vigorous activity that appears to make a difference. Vigorous activity is defined as using at least six times the energy a person would use while at rest, while moderate activity means three times the resting level.
GET ADEQUATE SLEEP
Good sleep habits allow the brain to process information and emotions that it cannot handle during the day, help to release toxin buildup in the brain, rejuvenate the senses. It is best to have relatively the same bedtime and wake time every day, no electronic devices 30 minutes prior to sleeping, and a relaxing bedtime routine such as drinking decaffeinated herbal tea.
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BBC News - Middle-aged can reverse heart risk with exercise, study suggests http://www.bbc.com/news/health-42565137 …
WORK STRESS CAN UNDERMINE RELATIONSHIPS
Research suggests that detachment, or disengaging psychologically from work when we leave, is important in promoting recovery from stress and preventing feelings of agitation, or emotional strain. The failure to detach from work—by continuing to think about it when we get home—can lead us to feel more fatigued, have less energy, and withdraw more from loved ones.
A recent study published in the Journal of Happiness Studies explored how daily work stress affects the well-being of both partners in a couple, specifically looking at the importance of detachment. It found that the stress we bring home from work isn’t just exhausting; it can also affect our partner’s view of the entire relationship.
If you have trouble shutting out thoughts of work at home, just remember: It’s not only good for your health and well-being, but your partner’s, as well.
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Gratitude brings light to the soul because it shines a light on our sense of interconnectedness with one another. - Melissa Higgins, LCSW
LONELINESS IS DANGEROUS
According to researchers at Brigham Young University in Utah, US, loneliness can increase the risk of death by at least 30%. It is as dangerous as smoking 15 cigarettes a day, and more tightly linked to our mortality than better-known lifestyle risks like obesity and lack of exercise.
Loneliness weakens our immune system, leaves us more vulnerable to cancer, affects our heart health, lowers our pain threshold, raises our blood pressure, tightens our arteries and puts us at greater risk of dementia.
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Over-exercising is a behavioral addiction, meaning that it’s an action you persist in despite negative consequences. That said, exercise addiction isn’t technically a mental health diagnosis.
Exercise addiction tends to link up with eating disorders and food addiction. While the symptoms are different, there’s an overarching theme: a strong desire for control in the area of body image, fitness, food, and weight.
There is also a neurological component to over-exercising. After all, when you go for a run or exert yourself physically, you trigger a cascade of biochemical changes that increase your sense of well-being.
Recovery from exercise addiction is all about addressing and healing core issues that lead to addictive behavior. Reaching out for qualified, compassionate, professional help is imperative.
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BE MORE MINDFUL
Mindfulness is about relating to your thoughts in a nonjudgmental, curious and accepting way. It’s about shifting out of autopilot to keep your attention alive in the present moment. This mindset shift can lead to amazing benefits for your health and well-being. When you mindfully pause to connect with your thoughts in a noncritical way, you can more effectively regulate your emotions, decreasing emotional reactivity and promoting responsive, goal-directed behavior.
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PLAYING SPORTS BENEFITS MENTAL HEALTH
Taking part in sport protects children who are abused or neglected from developing mental health problems in later life, according to a major public health study.
People who had traumatic childhoods were also more likely to be mentally healthy if they took part in sport as adults. Of childhood activities measured, only regular participation in sports showed a protective effect against mental illness.
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